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18 December 2010

#352 Write a personal ad

Perhaps you’ll find love at the vegetable counter instead of in a bar. Or after writing a personal ad.www.creativecommons.org

Perhaps you’ll find love at the vegetable counter instead of in a bar. Or after writing a personal ad.www.creativecommons.org

There are a bunch of people in the world who would say that they were born with a certain talent. Some of them call themselves, and each other, poets and writers. Just to keep others out. It's bullshit. Anyone can write. But to get good at it, you need to practice. Get up early and sit in your chair, stop whining and write. Here are: Seven things you can write.

The strange thing isn’t that it’s considered a bit uncool to post personal ads or date people online. The strange thing is that it’s accepted to at any time to go out to a pub, get drunk and fuck a stranger in the hope that one day, through this method, you’ll meet someone who you'll share the rest of your life with. As if you, by going to a bar and observing a person's jawbone or attitude, will find the woman or man of your life. And that is if there is only ONE woman or man that you could share your life with. There are a thousand different ways to meet people and there are thousands of people who could be your future partner. The remarkable thing is how closed most of us are to the various methods and opportunities that exist.

Such as:

- Dating on the web.
- Writing a personal ad.
- Going on a blind date.

Writing a personal ad isn’t easy. It’s natural to begin to slip into the usual traps of thinking that you want to meet someone who shares your interests. Maybe you want to meet someone who doesn’t at all have the same interests. So you’ll have something to talk about and can learn from each other. Write that in your personal ad. Maybe you want to meet someone you don’t understand at all. Write that in your personal ad. Dare to go a different way. Write a totally honest personal ad where you write exactly what you're looking for and don’t use worn-out phrases such as beach walks, non-smoker seeking non-smoker or middle-aged man who likes women is looking for similar someone like-minded. Think again. Do the opposite. Dare to.

Text: Navid Modiri

Required time: 
1 day or less
Cost: 
Less than €50
Cons: 
You could meet crazy people who aren’t at all who you want.
Pros: 
You could meet crazy people who aren’t at all who you want.
Taggar: ragga, notebook, love, hugging, dinner, degebo, collective, coffee, 365 things you can do
31 July 2010

#212 Buy a homeless person a meal

Today’s guest blogger is named Gustaf Linton, he lives in Lund.

My mom has always taught me that one shouldn’t give money to homeless people because they’ll just buy drugs with it. When I was little, I saw this as very sensible and I simply apologized and said that I had no money if they asked me for change. Of course, I always bought Aluma or whatever else they might be selling. But when I grew up and became a bit older, I realized that this was a totally absurd attitude to have. Of course they should get food, and you could just get it for them. The next time a stranger asked if I could give him some change for food, I told him to wait, and then I came back five minutes later with a cheese burger and a cup of coffee. It is rare to see someone so happy, especially over something so little.

Have you done the above or something else 365-ish? Do as Gustav and send us a video at info@365saker.se

Required time: 
1 day or less
Cost: 
Over €10
Cons: 
Some homeless people can be nasty, very nasty!
Pros: 
You get direct contact with another part of your city, one that you may not often encounter/confront. You get direct feedback and the chance to make someone very happy.
Taggar: things, homeless, Garfield Linton, dinner, croissants, another part of town, alum
19 March 2010

#78 Go to a restaurant by yourself

I am obstinate, and if I would look up the word in a dictionary, it would say: stubborn, bullheaded, and defiant - but I won’t because I am obstinate and refuse to. For the same reason, I think a lot about having a full beard because it is considered to be provocative, because I look like a Taliban. I sing, although I am not a singer, and, although many reviewers think it’s a bitch, I talk about film in Filmkrönikan even though I haven’t studied film. Why? Because I'm an obstinate bastard, and if you tell me that I shouldn’t or can’t, my desire only grows. Some outgrow the need to do things out of spite. I feed my inner punk with raspberry jelly every morning.

Therefore I like to do solo activities in groups and group activities alone. Both during my trips abroad and here at home, I like to eat in a restaurant alone when I don’t have a lunch date. But one evening, I am considering doing it full-on. Take myself out to dinner. The whole nine yards. Dress up, go down to the restaurant and holding the door open. Then I'll buy a nice expensive wine, the tastiest starter and maybe have a little fun with the waitress when she wonders if she should set the table for someone else. Sit and eat slowly in silence. Look at the couples in the fancy restaurant as they look at me and wonder if I am:

1. Mentally ill.
2. From another culture that encourages dinner alone. 
3. Bullied.

When they have finished staring I'll enjoy my main course. Yearn for dessert and indulge myself to a glass of champagne so I’ll be giggly by the time I leave. Tip well and say good night to the guy in the closet on the way out. Go home to bed. Satisfied.

Required time: 
Allocate 4 hours.
Cost: 
Depends on what kind of restaurant you go to. Try to not spend more than 50 euro
Cons: 
People may perceive you as weird. And if it bothers you, you could feel bothered.
Pros: 
You practice to appreciate your own company. You have time to think. You get a good dinner, and avoid cold conversation with someone who you didn’t have the energy to talk to anyway. You can sneak peek and eavesdrop on people in peace. You can order the amount of dessert you want, without being ashamed, and you don’t have to pretend to know anything about wine.
Taggar: solo activity, dinner, alone